Dogs and Jealousy
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For ages, many animal experts held that all dog behavior, including possible jealous tendencies, stemmed from instinct rather than emotions, but new research is proving that theory wrong. So, if you recently brought a new friend or another pet into your life, and your dog suddenly seems less than friendly, you may just have a jealous pooch on your hands.
Paul Morris, Ph.D., a psychologist and animal behavior expert at the University of Portsmouth in England, determined that certain animals, including dogs, experience a wide array of emotions. Along with jealousy, these emotions include anger, anxiety, surprise, pride, embarrassment and shame.
While cats, pigs, horses, rabbits and hamsters also seem to get jealous, dogs appear to feel this emotion more often and with greater intensity. Dog owners who were included in the study consistently reported that their dogs pushed in between themselves and third party rivals for their attention.
Scientists as of yet can't communicate with dogs to know what they are truly feeling, but the evidence so far suggests that canine emotions -- including jealousy -- are comparable to what we experience.
"All we can do is look at behavior and context," Morris said. "Both the behavior and the contexts observed are consistent with current scientific definitions of jealousy. I suspect that a highly social species such as the dog has a very developed repertoire of social emotions."
He and others plan to study animal emotions more in future. Meanwhile, what should you do if you suspect your dog is feeling jealous? Here are a few guidelines:
1. Recognize the signs
Like a spurned lover, your dog will have a hard time containing itself if it feels jealous. Sulking, snarling, growling, fighting and sluggishness can be symptoms of jealousy. Some dogs even get so upset that they stop eating. In that case, be sure to schedule a veterinary check-up to rule out possible medical causes.
2. Maintain routines
You likely have a daily routine for interacting with your dog, even if you did not establish this routine consciously. Think back to what your schedule and habits were like before the new pet or person was introduced and, whenever possible, try to reestablish that pattern with your dog. Routine is important to your dog because its jealousy, in part, comes from fear of losing its place in your life. By continuing to feed, walk, and play with your dog according to a normal schedule, you reassure your pet of its place in your heart.
3. Give extra attention
Try to spend even more time with your dog than usual during the transitional period. If the subject of your dog's jealousy is another person, encourage that individual to play, pet and otherwise positively interact with your dog as much as possible.
4. Reinforce basic training
Your dog thinks of you as part of its pack. Now it must share you with another individual. You must remain the leader, so gently show your dog who is boss by verbally scolding negative behavior as soon as it starts. At the same time, reward positive behavior with sweet talk, head rubs, and treats, especially if your dog makes an effort to socialize with your new pack member.
5. Empathize
Whether the object of your dog's jealousy is a new pup or person, try to remember that from your dog's perspective, it was with you first. Your dog has attempted to earn your loyalty and affection over the years, while sharing those same gifts with you. Its jealousy is actually a measure of how much it values both you and its position within your now-growing pack.
About the Author
Scott Rose , a columnist and contributor for Pampered Puppy, has also written for Modern Dog, New York Dog, Conde Nast Traveler and several other publications.
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My Jealous Dog
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This Article
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BRENDA
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Posted by Athena on 2008-01-27 at 06:11:08
Garm
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Posted by Jay on 2008-01-27 at 13:45:38
zeliousy
Fantastic article and so true i realised immidiately
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Posted by Curlycue on 2008-08-05 at 12:20:08
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Posted by William on 2008-10-14 at 20:50:59
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About a month ago, I fostered a pair of mastiffs for a rescue. They have both bonded with me, but the female especially has gotten jealous of my youngest son. She took a run at him the other day, she wasn't growling or barking, but instead was doing this high pitched yapping. As soon as I yelled at her, she dropped to the ground, and at that point, I put a finger through her collar and led her back into the kennel. But she is very posessive and jealous of even her companion trying to get closer to me than she is.
Posted by Beth on 2009-05-03 at 23:40:20
dog jealous
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jealousy
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Posted by sharon on 2009-06-12 at 11:42:09
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Posted by shahneela on 2009-06-27 at 15:20:35
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Posted by Ashley on 2009-08-02 at 09:52:09
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Posted by Chantal on 2009-08-17 at 05:02:45
Jealous Dog
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Posted by Tammy on 2009-09-22 at 21:48:33
Jealous old dog
My familiy has a 12 yr old Llasa and we recently bought home 2 yorky poo puppies. When we introduced the 1st puppy to the old dog it seemed okay and then a few days later I went back and bought the brother too. Now the puppies play incessantly, bu t when the newer puppy tries to make friends with the Llasa, he snaps and growls. Luckily the old dog doesn't have many teeth. I am wondering if this will get better? The Llasa still sleeps with us, but I am also wondering if when I introduced the newer puppy to the Llasa, if by not doing it in a neutral place, like the mailbox as I did with the first one, I did irreversible damage. Help!
Posted by Lisa on 2009-10-14 at 21:39:41
Is it puppy jealousy?
I have 3 yorkies. 2 females and 1 male. The ages are 3months. This is the first time one has gained up on the others. The puppie actually goes after the other 2 pups to hurt them. I had to seperate so the others wouldn't get torn up. The pup acts like he is gone mad! When the other 2 are not there she is fine. Any comments or answers , Please!
Posted by Denise on 2009-10-23 at 15:15:46
Jealous Aggression
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Posted by Kathy on 2009-10-27 at 10:19:19
dog aggression
i need help- i have had my male schnazer for 5 years, i recently brought home a kelpie one year old - my male schnauzer keeps growlling at new dog,this causes new dog to want to fight,,,what can i do to get them to live in harmony and play together
Posted by kay on 2009-10-29 at 22:29:28
Jealous new dog
I have just taken in a stray dog who is very sweet and playful. I already own a very sweet and placid dog. The new dog, Tilly, gets jealous if the older dog, Pepé tries to come to my husband and I or the dog bed and she tries to nudge or head him off. She doesn't growl or bite but is persistent in pushing him away. I try to assert myself as leader and reward Tilly for not pushing away Pepé. Will I be able to stop this jealous behaviour eventually?
Posted by Alison on 2009-11-01 at 15:31:54
Jealous of pup
Thank you for your articals I have a two year old Border Collie and a 6 month old pup. The two year old has recently been leaving poos on the floor when I am out. Never thought about her being jealous.
Posted by Eleanor Miller on 2009-11-05 at 08:29:00
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